We can never “unsay” the things we’ve said.
In fact, it’s one of the issues I faced a few weeks ago.
It wasn’t a pleasant one, especially because the person who badmouthed me was a total stranger who’d never met/spoke/written to me (yet?) . . .
But, let’s not dwell on that.
Talking about it will only bring the negative memory (along with all the negative emotions that come with it) into my life.
Nothing good will come of it.
So, I decided to let it go and move on.
The past few weeks had been chaotic . . . but in spite of everything (and may be because of all the problems I faced) . . . I’d say that it was a successful couple-of-weeks.
Here are the things I learned from all the things that happened:
- It’s always better to conduct business/collaboration/negotiation via e-mail. It’s always good to have written records of the things we discuss. It will also come in handy when the people we work with forgot about the things they promised/planned/claimed/etc. Just refer to the relevant e-mails and there you have your valid/irrefutable evidence. Plus: We can also use the written records (a.k.a. e-mails) to refresh our memories.
- Never work with people who aren’t good at reading your e-mails carefully.
- Never collaborate with someone who isn’t good at returning your e-mails.
- Never collaborate with someone whose working ethics are not compatible with yours.
- It’s good to be know people who know a lot of people in your industry and the industries that complement your industry.
- Anticipate possible problems and be ready for them. e.g. I learned from previous shoots that I should bring wipes, glue gun, jewelry-making tools, and sewing kit to photo shoots.
- If you have a niggling feeling that a certain collaboration isn’t going to work, it’s usually true. Malcolm Gladwell can explain it better than I do.
- Big companies aren’t the most reliable companies. Especially if they are much bigger than yours.
- Smaller businesses that are run by ambitious people are much more reliable. They usually are willing to go the extra mile.
I’m getting ready for two more editorials shoots.
-joyce @ Angelica Brigade