The seemingly simple (and trite, and unhelpful) answer is:
We should spend the bulk of our times doing the things we love to do.
I’m not saying that we should spend the bulk of our times doing some things that are related to the fields or activities we are interested in. Instead, we should take that principle one step further.
First, ask yourself this seemingly unimaginative question: If you can do anything you want & make a good living out of it, what would you choose to do?
Next, this is the more important question: Why? What do you like about like it?
Many of us will never become Olympic Athletes / famous writers / pop stars / leading actors / international models / etc. But, it doesn’t mean that we have to get stuck doing the things we don’t like so we can pay our bills.
Someone who loves to play tennis might never become a world class tennis player. Some people might encourage her to become a coach or work for a sporting goods company. But, those solutions might not be the best ones for her. She might love tennis because she loves being active. She might also love the challenge and the adrenaline rush she gets when she faces her opponent. So, if (after giving her best shot) she’s not able to become a pro tennis player; then, it’s in her best interest to find a challenging job that can give her plenty adrenaline rush. There are a wide range of options she can choose from, such as:
- Emergency Medical Technician
- War zone photographer
- Wedding planner
- Bail bond agent
- ADHD kids’ babysitter
Besides, she still can play tennis on her spare time . . .
Someone who wants to become a famous rock star, on the other hand, might want to become a rock star because he loves being in the spotlight . . . they love the fame, the money, the booze, the girls . . . Booze and girls are not on a rock star’s job description . . . so, if those are the kinds of things he wants, he might fare better if he:
- DJ on the weekends (girls, booze, some degree of fame)
- Opens a nightclub
- Becomes an Alcohol Promoter, or
- Becomes an Auto Show Organizer
Or, he can use his skills to get rich in some other ways . . . Gold diggers & alcohol can be a part of the deal
There’s a solution for everyone. Just focus on your real wish and find the best way for you to achieve it
- What does it (doing the things we love) to do with finding finding happiness?
- People should not define themselves by their jobs. A job should be a mean to an end.
- If someone wants to stay at home with their children she should feel free to do it.
Most people spend the bulk of their times at work (or school). People who hate their jobs (or studies) aren’t very happy, are they?
Besides, I’d never said that we should find a job that fulfill us did I? I merely said that we should spend most of our times doing the things we like . . . if raising & supervising a child if something someone loves to do; then, by any means she should do it . . .
I on the other hand, love to create things with my hands. There are times when I work 15 hour days to meet some deadlines; but, I welcome such long days anytime. In fact, I’ve been working long hours these days because I’m getting some pieces ready for an upcoming photo shoot (8 different outfits for 2 different models).
When we enjoy what we are doing, more is just more.
So, that’s it?! If we do the things we love then we’ll definitely be happy?
No … You can read more about it here
Next Saturday: Common Sense is a Trap
Have a great weekend